1. The first thing I have learned from blogging is to not care so much about what others think about me, whether it’s as simple as taking a photo off the side of the road for the gram or about how others see me. For the longest time, I struggled with what others thought about me but it got to a point where it would eat me alive. I had to learn the hard way and take criticism. But don’t get me wrong, some people can just be super cruel and rude to your face but you have to just say “they need Jesus” and move on, haha. With blogging, we have so many girls constantly looking at one another and comparing themselves to the better blogger. I have learned to only look at my own personal growth because at the end of the day, the other bloggers started at the same place where I did. It’s all mental and you have to believe in yourself and find your own personal style. Now, when it comes to caring about the people walking by when you are taking photos, that’s just something that comes with blogging. They don’t understand and they don’t see it as your job. At the end of the day, I see it as my job to get quality posts up for you. I get enjoyment out of it, and lastly, they don’t know you or your story. The only time I do feel awkward when taking photos is in my hometown because everyone there knows me, but if I am taking them in Charlotte, I just think to myself no one here knows me so I can embarrass myself.
2. The second thing I have learned is to lean on your blogger friends within your community. They will help you so much mentally and physically. They are the only ones who know what it’s like to “live” this blogger lifestyle. I always love talking to my blogger friends because they understand where I am coming from. They are also going to support you when you need them the most. I have made some of my lifelong friends from blogging and personally, some of the best friends I have met. They understand me, they help me, and they care about how I am doing. I am so thankful that blogging brought me close to my blogger friends that I have today because not only would I have not met them but I would have never heard their stories. Hearing their stories about who they are or where they came from really impacts you. We all have a story about where we came from.
3. Another thing I have learned is finding my personal style. Don’t just post to post. Post because you like it, your followers will enjoy it, and that you would actually wear it. In the beginning of blogging, I just wanted to post a bunch of photos just to post, but I have learned that finding your style is very important. If you haven’t found your style, how do you know what crowd that you want to attract? You want to be able to connect with your followers on another personal level.
4. PUBLIC SPEAKING. Oh, my goodness. This is a huge one for me. If you know me, then you know that I love to talk and I am constantly chatting. However, when it comes to all the attention on me and speaking for a presentation, it’s not really my cup of tea. Blogging has forced me to step out of my comfort zone and again, to not give a crap about what people think. From having to go to a lot of social events for blogging, it has helped me put myself out there and force myself to allow others to get to know me personally.
5. Lastly, blogging has taught me to value my time. This has been such a struggle for me since I first started my blog because I am a full-time student as well as working a part-time job, and on the side I have my fashion blog. Aside from all of this, I have my friends, family and my boyfriend who I also have to make time for. Blogging has taught me not only that I wear a lot of hats but also how to be more time efficient. To be honest with you, when I first started blogging, I really only focused on my blog because it was so new to me and I was excited. My boyfriend and family eventually had to sit down with me and talk about how much time I spend on my phone and how consumed I am with my blog. I had been so excited about this new path of mine that it was consuming my life, and it was my first priority every morning when I woke up. They brought up a good point; I should just consider it my 9-5 job and stay off my phone at night. Which most of the time I do, but it really helped me ease my mind. I go to work on Mondays, Wednesdays and once on the weekend, school on Tuesdays and Thursdays and on the weekend. I devote my time with my family, boyfriend and some photo shoots here and there. I am really glad I have learned to manage my day to day schedule with blogging. I think it is really important to live in the moment and not be on your phone so much because we only get this one life to experience all these great things but if we are on our phones so much, how can we say we were actually there to soak it all in?